Keep Calm

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It has been a series of emotional roller coaster ride for me the last 2 weeks. My daughter has some health concerns and I am worried big time. I have been worrying since her last check up and she still has to undergo a series of tests in the very near future. Since I am the only parent, I turn to family and friends when deciding what to do. As I have mentioned in my past posts, you always need to find that support group who can help you if not financially, at least, emotionally. I always tell my friends first when something concerns my daughter. They are the ones who analyzes situations for me and help me decide what's best. My family I turn to when I have decided and I need them to help me financially or just be there to help any time I need it. 

There will still be many days in the future that you would have these worry days. As your child/children grow, the level of worrying increases. In the 15 years that I have my daughter, I still worry about everything when it comes to her. That is why I admire those who have 2 or more kids. That's worrying times 2 or more! LOL!

Keep Calm my dear only parent. We Can Do THIS! 

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Sad Monday

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Yes, that is right. Today I feel sad. Why? Because there are many things in my life right now that is not going my way. But let me tell you that feeling sad is not only for us the only parent. People who have a whole family often have these kind of days as well. Do not relate being the only parent to sad days. We may feel this from time to time but it doesn't mean that we can't do something about it. I am writing this because I want you my dear readers to know that it is okay to feel this way. It is not something that only select people feel. Everybody has sad days. It may stem from anger, frustrations and even a bad hair day. The only solution to this is to think that tomorrow, the sun will shine again and another day will be given to you to tell the world that you are happy. 

Whatever it is that is making you feel sad today, remember that we can do this! Drown your sorrows away and believe that there will be more happy days to come...

Have a great Monday loves...

Much love,

The Only Parent ( T.O.P.)

Dream Big

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I was almost 26 years old when I had my daughter. I had to stop working because of the pregnancy and since I gave birth, I haven't been financially stable till now. When I turned 40 last year, I knew I had to do something about it. My daughter will be in college soon and I am not financially able to finance what she wanted to take. And now, a year later, I have not done anything to ensure a bigger income. My life is again turning into shambles due to problems beyond my control. All I have been doing is think of these problems, feel sad and sulk. 

Don't you think it's time for me to do something? YES! Let's do this! For those of you who are in the same boat, let's do this! Dream big! We can do it!

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Ask Me!

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I have been the only parent for 13 years now and still I am no expert in solo parenting. But with this blog, I am able to enlighten a lot of parents like me. I have received a number of emails from my readers and some of them asked for guidance and advice regarding their situations. 

So, don't be shy dear readers. Ask me via the comment section or via twitter (@TheOnlyParent4U . Our exchanges may be able to help a solo parent in need. 

Thank you very much for the continued patronage. We can do this TOPs!

Much love,

The Only Parent (TOP)

Can I Do It?

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There are days when we question ourselves. Can I do it? Will I survive this? This is one of those days when I am trying to look at me and my daughter's future but all I see is haze. Something is bugging me for a long time now and it involves my daughter's future. How can I say no if it is what she wants. Can I afford it? The answer now is no but should I stop her? Should I try and change her mind? 

I will think about this dilemma for a long time but hopefully, it will all be okay. One thing is for sure, I will do everything in my power to ensure a bright future for her. 

I can do it!

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Making the Right Decision

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How would you know if you are making the right decision for your child? I know that it is hard to decide if you are the only one weighing the pros and cons of a situation. However, you need not go through it alone. You have family and friends to help you in your decisions. You can even go online, do research and/or read online forums. It is relatively easy if you know where to turn to during these times. 

Let me give you an example. When I was looking for a high school for my daughter, I first checked for proximity. It was very important to me because I wanted to be there immediately for emergencies and other after school activities when school service is not available. Since there are a lot of schools nearby, I narrowed it to three and research the schools online. Of course I also have to take into consideration the tuition since I am the only parent paying for it. Then, I discussed the advantages and disadvantages of each school to other members of the family and some friends. And then, my daughter and I decided which school we wanted.

It was easy right? The important thing to remember when confronted with a situation is not to panic. If ever we make the wrong decision, we just have to move on and learn from it. Being the only parent is not a hindrance to us and our children. We should have the I can attitude and face life head on. 

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)