Time Management

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Recently, I had to adjust my life because of some unforeseen problems. I used to just go to work and not worry what my daughter will eat when she comes home from school and what to eat for dinner. But then, there are times when you just have to do what you gotta do. 

So now, I am being a little domesticated which I really hate but since I have no choice I need to start doing things I have no idea how to. Maybe it's about time to learn.

I am NOT telling you all these because I am complaining. I am telling you all of these because it is possible to do all these with time management. For only parents, single moms, solo parents or whatever you call it, IT IS POSSIBLE to do everything with a little support and lots of patience. 

You can do it MOM! 

Much love, 

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Happy Father's Day MOM!

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Today I honor all solo moms and only parent to their children. With the enormous task of juggling your role to be both the dad and mom to your children, you have given them the greatest gift of all - LOVE. Continue to be great and continue to love your children twice as much as others! Your children truly have the best of both worlds. 

Happy Father's day Mom!

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Being Honest

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I believe that being honest with our kids is the best way to raise them. As I have mentioned before, I have been very vocal and honest with my daughter regarding her dad, the circumstances that led to our separation and how I felt about it. Just the other night, we had another story session in the car while traveling home from a party. This time around, I told her some of our family's secrets. Although she is only 14 year old, I know that she can understand well and it won't her in any way. 

Many of you may disagree with me but the truth is, I felt it was time to tell her the truth and at the same time, teach her some lessons regarding the mistakes we made in the past. Our 1 hour ride proved to be a great time to let her know our family better. She was curious and careful with her questions. I tried to explain the best possible way that I know she can understand. It was really worth the ride. 

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Child Support

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I know that every solo parent has their own opinion about this but I will still share my view on this matter. My blog is The Only Parent meaning I don't receive anything from the father for her daughter. I don't get child support.. I know I have the right to ask but I don't want to. Why? Because I believe that if the father is in his right mind, I don't need to ask. Simple as that. Asking is like begging someone to do something they don't want to. I may not afford everything my daughter needs but I will never ever ask for support from her dad ever. You might think that because I have only one child, I can afford not to ask for child support. Well, that is partially true. If I have 3 or 4 children, I may think about it BUT if I can, I will still not ask.

I believe that child support should be given without you needing to ask and without you having to file a case. Child support is a must. Fathers who take their children seriously should know that it is their responsibility to give their child the support they need in whatever kind. If they can't support their children, then they have no right to be included in their children's lives. 

Much love,

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

My Child, My Rules

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Never ever let anyone tell you how to raise your own kids. This is what I learned for the past 14 years of being the only parent to my daughter. Notice how people always have an opinion on how you handle and raise your kids? They are quick to criticize and talk about what you are doing wrong. Guess what?! They don't have perfect children! Their children are no better than yours. 

When I gave birth to my daughter, I always asked for help since I have no idea what I was doing. I listen to their tips but somehow I tend to not follow what they tell me. I don't know why but my "mother's instinct" kicked in as soon as I had her. I do everything my own way except for some things that I thought sounds realistic. When someone is quick to find fault, I prove them wrong and eventually no one tells me what to do anymore unless I ask.

As my daughter grew up, questions on how I raise my daughter often comes up. They would question my decisions on how I deal with her, how I "spoil" her, why I often let her do what she wants and why I almost always buy her what she wants if budget permits. Well, you can question all you want but please know that how I raise my child is of no consequence to you. If I did wrong, then I will suffer for it and learn more along the way. If I am right, then I am happy. Simple as that. 

Much love, 

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)

Needs and Wants

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Here is something that will make you think from time to time. When our children were little, it is us who decides the needs and the wants. As they grow older, they would sometime ask for things that they want. It may be the latest gadget, the fashionable clothes and the trendy bags. As the only parent, you may not be in the best position to give everything they need and want. But hey, don't be guilty about it. It is important that you try your best to give the needs and explain to your children the concept of want. Believe me when I say that they will understand as long as you explain them over and over again why they can't always have what they want. You can also use this time to teach them the concept of money - how you can earn, save and spend them. 

Make every problem solving situation a learning experience. 

Much love, 

The Only Parent (T.O.P.)