Honesty is Still the Best Policy

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One thing I never did was to lie to my daughter about the true status of our relationship with his dad. Even when she was little and cannot seem to understand, I still told her the truth. It was a non-negotiable must do for me. However, even if I told her the truth, one thing I never did was to belittle her father. There is a thin line that separates the two so you must be very careful with your words. I will give you an example so you can better understand. 

Scenario: 

Dad doesn't give support and the reason for your separation is because of his womanizing. 

What you can tell your child: 

We separated because of a third party and his work doesn't pay much for him to support you and your needs.  

What you shouldn't tell your child:

Your dad is a womanizing s*** and he won't give a dime to support you. He doesn't care for you anymore.

See the difference? No matter what happened between you and your EX, the fact remains that your EX is still your child's dad. You cannot take that away and you should never do. It is for your child to judge when the right time comes. (but remember, it is also okay to burst with anger once in a while). The truth is you can never have a child if your EX does not exist right?!?

Much love,

T.O.P (The Only Parent)

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