Moving On

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Moving on is the hardest part when dealing with a failed relationship. There are three stages where the relationship with your EX can end - confirmation of the pregnancy, during the pregnancy and after giving birth. Mine came 2 years after giving birth. All these stages albeit can trigger different feelings will end the same - you are left to be the only parent. And that is what you should be ready for. 

My failed relationship was doomed from the start. It was what you call Love is (really) Blind. You know that it is not the right kind of relationship but you just want to be in it. Two years after giving birth, I finally gave up. I packed our bags and left. The next six months was a roller coaster ride. It was emotionally exhausting. But come to think of it, the time we had a relationship was even worse for me emotionally. It was a draining experience that I would never, ever want to go through again. It is without a doubt the most depressing stage in my life. So how did I move on? I just did! I let myself go through the process of healing. This is the most important stage to be able to get up again and move on;. You have to let yourself heal by going through the difficult process of crying, feeling awful, hoping, and finally giving up. 

It can be difficult especially at night when sleep is hard to come by. Books were my escape. I dig through all the books I had before and read every night until I fall asleep. I did this for 6 long months until 1 day, I felt good and was ready to move on. But don't get frustrated if it takes you longer. We are designed differently and I cannot tell you how long your healing process will be. All you need to do is take one day at a time until finally you will be able to move on and the hurting stops. 

Much love, 

T.O.P. (The Only Parent)